Condolence & Memory Journal

Just learned of critters passing. This is such a sad day. He was a great guy and friend. Many condolences to his family.

Posted by christopher theilmann - ofallon, MO - friend   December 18, 2014


dad im missing you, wish you were still with us. i love you!!

Posted by amanda cheatham - wood river, IL - daughter   June 10, 2013

Happy 4th of July. I miss you and wish you were here. I love you and I need you more than ever. Yesterday on the way to work REO Speedway was on the radio and then a rabbit was crossing the road at the same time. I knew you've been watching over us. I just hope we're making you proud!

Posted by Debbie Drioane    July 04, 2012

Happy father's Day!!! i sure do miss u so much, specially today. i love you so much this is not fair. i lost my best friend, my support and always there for a "guy" advice, and shoulder when i needed it and u told me not to long ago that i can call anytime i need to but your not there now and i cant here you say hello freddies frog lip imporium freddie speaking i would say hey freddie his response was HEY FREDDIE!!!!!!!!!! i miss every little thing. i know i have to stay strong for my girls, but out of there sight im falling apart at every seam and dont even know how to get through it. im a proud daddys girl. i miss you!!!!!

Posted by amanda cheatham - wood river, IL - daughter   June 18, 2012


RayRay, What a wonderful personality God blessed you with, always so happy to see people, always joking and always smiling. Even though I didn,t see you much after you grew up I always loved you. Rest in peace my precious nephew till we meet again.

Posted by Pamela Cheatham Layton - St. Peters, MO - Aunt   May 17, 2012

I can't imagiine going through what you have to. We are very, very sorry to hear of your loss. I only met "Critter" a couple times but realized what a great and fun guy he was. Our hearts go out to you and the family. Know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. Love ya!



Ray , you will dearly missed by my sweet Jessica and her Big sister Christina and most of all by your lovely daughter. You were a very special part in their lives and I am so glad that I got to meet you and had the short time of knowing you. You were always upbeat and happy and lots of fun. May you rest in peace . My prayers are with your family at their time of loss.

Sincerly Mary and Mike Morten and Steve Whitehead and Jessica

Posted by Mary Morten - East Alton, IL - Jessica Whitehead's grandma   May 17, 2012


Critter: You were one of the nicest men I ever had the pleasure to meet and know. We had so many nice talks together, both here at our house and on the phone. I'll never forget our conversation as you gave me a ride in your new car. How full of life and excited you were. I will remember you forever, and hold you in my heart until we meet again in Heaven.
God Bless! Love your Stepmother, Laura Cheatham.

Posted by Laura Cheatham - Granite City, IL - Stepmother & Friend   May 17, 2012


Crit: The last time we talked, you said "When are we going fishing?" We have had such good times fishing and hunting together. I'm going to miss my hunting and fishing partner. So now, when I go fishing, and I feel a gentle breeze across my cheek, I'll look around and imagine you are there with me, and I know you will be. I love you Crit. Dad.

P.S. Tell Tammy I still miss her very much. Love Dad.

Posted by Raymond Cheatham - Granite City, IL - Father   May 17, 2012


Ray Ray, do you know how much you are loved & missed? What a big part of our lives you are? I don't know what to do without you....You are a great big brother and the best pa pa I've ever known. Thank you for all the love and memories, I pray we've done right by you. You will never be forgotten. All my love now & always your proud baby sister Nay Nay AKA turtle butt frog lips....P.S. your so pretty oh so pretty. Rest peacefully brother you've earned it

Posted by Renee Crews - baby sister   May 16, 2012


Renee and family,

Our thoughts and prayers have been with you and your family and will continue forever. God Bless

Posted by Tim Giger/Doreen Ponder - troy, IL   May 16, 2012


The Lord is our salvation and our strength in every fight, our redeemer and protector, our eternal guiding light. He has promised to sustain us, He's our refuge from all harms, and underneath this refuge are the everlasting arms.

Posted by Brenda White - Mt Olive, IL - Friend of Ray Sr.   May 16, 2012


Debbie, Amanda(s), Christina, Jessica: My connection is my BFF Debbie. We worked together at United and have remained best friends for ten years and more. We have shared happy times and sad times but we have always supported each other.
Ray was always at Debbie's house on weekends with the granddaughters. Ray had such a sense of humor.
Whenever I went to Debbie's house or on the phone, Ray would greet me with Baaaaarb and I would answer Raaaaay.
These are treasured memories to never forget and it will give us strength and comfort. Just stop and think about how many lives that Ray deeply touched in person and online. Awesome Ray!
My deepest sympathy, Love you, BFF Barb Infantino

Posted by Barbara Infantino - Wentzville, MO - Friend   May 15, 2012


You will truly be missed, I know three little girls that have to learn to live their life without their daddy and papa, oh and two hampsters as well. You were a great man to many of us. I know you are in a better place and you are having a ball with our little Cassie, you better have told her how much I love and miss her!!! I know that your body ailments don't mean a thing and you are pain free and smiling from ear to ear, like you did when you heard a good joke or played with the grandbabies. We have your pictures to remind us, recordings of your voice to keep us, and all of our memories to maintain us until we meet again. To my sweet Critter!!!

Posted by Linda Conner - Vienna, MO - Former Wife   May 15, 2012

I have known Ray Jr. only meeting him on a few occasions. I attend the New Creation Fellowship Church in Granity City, IL with his dad Ray Cheatham. Last time I saw Ray Jr. was at a lunch at Denny's in Pontoon Beach. In learning of his sickness, pain and need for work, I have prayed so many times for him. I am sorry for the lost to all his loved ones. I will be continuing to pray for the family in their times of sorrow. I pray that God will comfort all of you during this time.
Bro. Doug

Posted by Douglas Cook - Granite City, IL   May 15, 2012

Like some of the others here, I only knew Critter online. He had such a keen wit, a good heart, and was always up for a good discussion, a game, or a word of support. We will all miss him.

Posted by Christopher Beck - Friend   May 15, 2012

I spoke with him on the forum, he was one of the forum regulars. I did not know him personally. But it grieves me that a fellow Dad, husband and gamer has passed away. I wish him god speed and may our Lord Christ be with him and his family. May God our Savior bless you all and the little one's.

"Good bye Critter, you will be missed"


Posted by Preston D. Smith - Russellville, AR - Fellow wargamer-Matrix forums   May 15, 2012

I didn't know him well but knew of him on matrix Games and The Wargamer forums and read his posts with interest.

He was a fellow wargaming enthusiast and that along with his humour came across in his posts.

I wish his family well through this difficult time and hope he finds peace and solice wherever he may be.

R.I.P. Critter

In sympathy

Posted by Billy Riley - Colchester, Essex, England - Fellow Wargamer   May 15, 2012

I only knew Critter virtually, but he really tried to help me out when I was in need and I will always be grateful. Thanks for your help and I will miss you.

Lloyd "Gus" Sabin

Posted by Lloyd Sabin - West Point, NY - Friend   May 15, 2012

From all of your fellow gamers, your wit and wisdom will be missed. You were an important part of our vast community, and we are all mourning the loss. To the family, you may not realize the size of the shadow Ray cast, but his loss has been literally discussed around the world. Our prayers and condolences go out to all of you.

Posted by Brant - Raleigh, NC - Friend   May 15, 2012

A fellow wargamer and military enthusiastic from The Matrix forums "Wodin" sends his deepest sympathy. Not sure we ever spoke as such but I know you'll be greatly missed.

Rest In Peace Critter

Posted by Jason Rimmer - Liverpool UK   May 15, 2012

I never met Roy in real life, but we had our conversations about games many times. It's been a real shock to hear Roy passed away so suddenly and many years too early. Most of us at the forum feel saddened by this news. I know I will miss helping you out with the finesses of the games we both loved playing.
My condolences to the family,
God bless you Roy,

Posted by Josh Andringa - Leeuwarden/ Netherlands   May 15, 2012

Debbie and girls, We're so very sorry for your loss. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time. Ray just couldn't wait to see Ann again to argue about the St Louis Cardinals and the Chicago Cubs. We love you...

Posted by Dave & Sally Hartley - Colorado Springs, CO - Friend   May 15, 2012


Ray was so proud of his daughters and step daughter. He was so over joyed every time we got Christina and Jessica. His face just lit up when he saw them. Always ready to tell a joke or story. It was never dull when he was around. I love you and miss you!

Posted by Debbie Drioane - Greenville, IL - Girl friend   May 15, 2012